Barbara Cashman | The Relationship Hub
Relationship Therapist | Sex Addiction Therapist
Based in Oxshott available for in person consultations or flexible online video sessions
Individuals, couples and families.
Why I do this
Too many people feel stuck, unseen or lonely in their own home. I believe that when we feel safe enough to speak honestly and be heard, relationships can transform. My work is to help you find clarity, courage and connection again.
You're in safe hands. I hold an MA in Relationship Therapy, I am an accredited Relate Practitioner, a member of the BACP Register and an Accredited Member of the National Counselling and Psychotherapy Society (MNCPS), and I am fully insured. Level 5 in compulsive sexual disorder behaviours (CSBD)
Professional training and ethics are how I honour the trust you place in me. I see couples, families and individuals from my private practice in Oxshott, Surrey, or online for UK-based and international clients.
How we will work together
Starting counselling may feel uncomfortable and for most people making the first appointment is the most daunting part. Counselling lets you talk about how you feel, away from home life or work. It can help you reflect on your choices and take decisions that feel right for you. Ultimately to be able to enjoy your life again.
My goal is that you leave each session with clarity and renewed hope
“Happiness is not something ready-made, it comes from your actions.” — Dalai Lama, XI
Is this for you?
Many people come to me feeling stuck, alone, anxious, misunderstood or unloved. Some worry they, or their partner, may have a pornography or sex addition behavioural problem. Online sessions can be a simple, private way to start making changes.
Individual therapy helps you understand your options and make the decisions that will help you feel fulfilled again.
Couples often arrive feeling angry after a betrayal, sad after losing a loved one, worn down by a partner's destructive behaviours, afraid to trust again, or resentful about ageing together. Couple therapy can repair a relationship when both partners are willing to change, or to accept each other as they are. It can also bring a clearer understanding of why a relationship cannot continue.
Families may come to therapy to blend together, to navigate a separation amicably while minimising the impact on the children, or to share family secrets in a safe place. Family counselling gives everyone a fair and equal voice, builds empathy, and helps you agree practical next steps.
Does it work?
You'll leave each session with at least one practical step and more emotional clarity.
Research and my experience show online therapy can be as effective as meeting in person. The work is most powerful when you focus on what you can change - yourself - rather than trying to change others.
With commitment, you'll start to think, act and connect in more fulfilling ways, moving forward with greater confidence and self-compassion.
How many sessions will I need?
Counselling requires focus and commitment. We will agree a plan that suits your goals. Short term (min 6 sessions) or open-ended therapy. Online appointments are flexible and easy access from the comfort of your own home. Consistence and regularity makes progress smoother.
What issues can counselling help with?
You may feel stuck in patterns of conflict or distance, wondering if things can ever feel easy again. Whatever you're facing, support is available across five key areas: Relationships, Emotional Wellbeing,
Family & Life Transitions, Behavioural Difficulties, and Neurodiversity. Explore each area below or get in touch to talk about how you're feeling.
RELATIONSHIP ISSUES
Couples & marriage support
Affairs & betrayals
Separation & divorce
Cross-cultural & pre-nuptial
EMOTIONAL WELLBEING
Anxiety & depression
Stress & work-related stress
Low self-esteem
Grief & bereavement
FAMILY TRANSITIONS
Parenting support
Blended & step-families
Family issues
Life transitions
BEHAVIOURAL DIFFICULTIES
Passive aggressive behaviour
Self-harm
Anger & impulse control
Compulsive behaviours
Compulsive Sexual Behaviour Disorder
NEURODIVERSITY
ADHD support
Communication support
CSBD ADDICTION THERAPY
Specialist, non-judgemental support for compulsive sexual behaviour disorder (CSBD)
- A safe, confidential and shame-free space to talk openly
- Practical tools to understand triggers and regain control
- Support to rebuild trust and intimacy in your relationships
- A clear, structured plan tailored to your goals
Why compulsive sexual behaviour happens - and how it changes:
Compulsive patterns are often a way of coping with stress, shame or difficult emotions rather than a lack of willpower.
With the right support, these patterns can be understood and changed.
Start with a free 15-minute conversation to explore what feeling safe and connected again could look like for you
Feel free to contact me if you have any questions about how relationship therapy works, or to arrange an initial assessment appointment. This enables us to discuss the process and whether I am the right therapist for you.
You can call me on 07919972430 if you prefer to leave a message or speak to me first. Alternatively you can sent me an email
All enquires are usually answered within 24 hours, and all contact is strictly confidential and uses secure phone and email services.
When relationships feel alive and hopeful again, everything shifts - here's what my clients say
My Location
My private practice is based in Oxshott, Surrey, where I see clients from the surroundi Cobham, Leatherhead, Esher, Bookham and East Horsley areas. I will provide exact location details when we arrange our counselling sessions. If you require further information please get in touch.
Fees & availability
Each session lasts 1 full hour
Individuals : £ 100
Couples : £ 120
Family: (3 people or more) £ 150
CSBD work : please call me for a chat
I can provide a free of charge initial 15 minute conversation on Zoom/Teams/Google Meet or over the phone to answer your questions and to see if I am the best suited therapist for you. Get in touch to check my availability.